Do You Remember Who You Were? - Take Care Sis

by Alyssa Dimes

A few months ago I saw the eye-opening quote below:

"Can you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be?" -Danielle La Porte 

This quote forced me to sit down and reflect. I pondered this for weeks, and I have finally come up with an answer. I used to be an extremely happy person, there were days when I would smile for no reason at all.

When I compare the joy I felt then to how I feel now there’s a drastic difference, I feel disconnected from that hope-filled little girl with pure uncontainable joy. The girl I am feels foreign, she worries far too much and holds on to the past much longer than she should. I feel like I have to regain my trust in myself which is proving to be extremely difficult. 

When I found the quote above, I was reading the book The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz. I had also recently listened to public speaker Lisa Nichols. Ruiz and Nichols articulated the impact of self-limiting beliefs and how they affect all aspects of our lives.

Nichols recommended an exercise called Expose the Lies, which entails writing down your lies about money, who you are, relationships, health, fitness and spirituality in pencil. Then, you skip 4 lines in between the lies and write down your truths in red pen. Once complete read through your lies and truths for 2 days once or twice a day until the truths become more believable. After the second day of reading through your list, erase the lies to reveal your truths. These truths provide you with a new foundation for your life. 

How did it work for me?

I have attempted it twice and stopped because it is a very emotional process. Nichols was not lying about that part! This process takes perseverance and consistency which are things that I seek to improve on, sometimes I am quick to give up when I feel uncomfortable. One thing that I've learned about myself this year is that I loath discomfort. Which is silly that I am discovering this because I believe that everyone on Earth seeks to be comfortable. Right? 

Reading through all the negativity that I feed myself made me feel like someone was pouring sour milk down my throat and forcing me to digest it. I even made excuses for why I didn't finish the exercise, for example, I didn't have the time. Yet, in the past, I have found time to binge several series on Netflix within hours. That being said I plan to try the exercise for the third time and actually complete it because I do want to live a better life than the one I’m allowing myself and this process may be the key to unlocking it. 

I am worth every ounce of tears, sweat and mental exhaustion it takes for me to get back to center. Below is a small list of my lies & truths:

Lies about Who I am 
L: My life is a mess.
T: I am changing & growing toward greatness.

Lies about Relationships
L: I will never have a long-lasting healthy, loving relationship with a significant other.
T: I will only open myself to healthy, loving, respectful relationships.

Lies about Health & Fitness
L: It cost too much for me to eat healthily.
T: I can afford to eat healthily.

Lies about Money
L: I can’t afford my dream life. 
T: My dream life is a life I can afford to put money and energy into, it is mine already.

Alyssa Dimes is a native of the Greater Cleveland area and the founder of the blog Pieces of Dimes. She is a passionate, creative writer of poetry and short stories. She is a lover of the arts she enjoys painting, writing and drawing. Some of her favorite plays and musicals are The Lion King, Hamilton, The Wiz, Beautiful: The Carole King Musical and Wicked. She currently works at a non-profit and enjoys visiting art exhibits, aquariums and traveling to new countries and states. Her favorite cities so far are San Diego, Manila, and Denver. Wacky facts about Alyssa: Loves pepper jack cheese, feels that dogs, sloths are two of the cutest animals on the planet. Follow her on Instagram at @piecesofdimes